"It Ain't Been Easy": Jouelzy Reminds Us to Be Vulnerable, Accountable, and Honest

Have you ever asked yourself:

What kind of friend am I?

Do I support my friends like they support me?


Am I emotionally distressed?

Do I love myself?

Do I know myself?

Have I cried today?

Do I care that I cried?

Am I suppressing my emotions because of how I may look?


Well, if you haven’t asked yourself these questions before, you will after watching Jouelzy's #SmartBrownGirl Thursday insight. Not only will her commentary on Single Black Female, Relationships, and Emotions leave you laughing at her graceful quirkiness and honesty, it will make you think.

Too often Black and Brown girls believe they are struggling alone with insecurity, emotional instability and friendships but Juelzy’s admission that she doesn’t always have it together is a constant reminder that we are not alone.


Essentially, it is not about how we may look to the outside world, but how we feel, and in a world where Black and Brown girl are last on the totem pole, first to be ridiculed, and suffocated by tropes like the “angry” and “strong” black woman, it is imperative that we take care of ourselves. Accountability, responsibility, vulnerability, and integrity are acts of power and will ultimately grant us those whole and loving relationships that we seek – not only with our current and future partners, but our closest friends, and ourselves as well.



Thank you, Jouelzy.


Randie Henderson is a Gates Millennium Scholar and recent college grad. She is driven to write, read, learn, and educate about ways to dismantle oppression in America and globally because she is passionate about people and justice. You can find her on randiejourney.tumblr.com

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